Enter your email to subscribe to this blog, receive newsletters, and to receive new posts by email. Dating a loser is one of the worst feeling when you are trying to build a relationship with someone.
What is even worse is when are dating a loser and you do not even know it. Often times infatuation see my blog here can get the best of us and we are blinded to the fact that the person we are dating is not a good fit. And because we want to be in a relationship so bad we bypass the fact that he is a loser and try to make him into something that he is not. If you are dating a man then he needs to be a man, it is not your job to be sitting there taking care of some grown behind man.
You want a man, not child.
You are not his mother and you did not give birth to him. If he is looking for a mommy, then he needs to go back home and move back in with his mommy. Do not be that person for him.
Your dating a loser if he thinks it is your job as his girlfriend to provide for him. When I was in a Facebook group about relationships I remember getting into a discussion with a man who did not have a job and did not have one for a long time. And he tried to tell me that as a woman we should understand. I do not understand.
I have been laid off from a job before you can click here to read my blog on that so I understand people lose their job. But then I got another one. Think of it this way, if you get married how is he going to help contribute to your bills if he has no way to work or any sort of income coming in? If he does not have that or he is not willing to do that then he is a loser.
Out of the couples I have counseled I think so many women overlook this aspect when pairing themselves with a man. He has no to goals and was lazy when you were dating him, and now that you are married you are wondering why he is still lazy and does not want to do anything. On my blog I encourage women to have goals and try to reach their success, so you know that it is unacceptable for men to not have any goals or drive to do anything.
This is an indicator of laziness and a lack of planning. If he I not encouraged about his own life then how can he be encouraged about your relationship or the life you are trying to create together. If you are in a relationship where a guy does not want to give you his time, a date, or even make you his priority; then he is a loser.
The last thing that you want is to be the one giving all your time, effort, and energy in the relationship and you are getting nothing back. The last thing you want is to feel like you are last on his list of things to do. If you are lost on what you deserve check out my blog on a woman worth more than rubies.
Of course if you have been dating for a week he may not want to meet important people in your life. But once you have been dating for a while and you determine you want to get serious with this person, if he does not want to meet anyone in your life that is important to you, then you are not important to him.
Another tidbit, is that if he does meet your family and friends and he is just plain rude to them or leaves a bad impression, then yes he is a loser. A man who cares about you is going to try to make a good impression to the people you care about.
If they are a jerk to these people that is a sign of his character and that he just does not care about you. But a man who makes a lot of false promises or says he is going to do something but does not follow through is not a man. As a man he should be grown enough to follow through on the things that he says he is going to do, especially as it pertains to your relationship.
And if he is not able to do that, then that shows that not only is he a loser but it also shows that he does not really care about keeping his promises to you and he will just tell you anything with no intention of actually doing it.
In my world that is the same as a lie. I wrote about this in my how to know you are in a bad relationship blog which you can read here. Anyone who loves and cares How to know if i am dating a loser you should not want to make you feel bad about yourself. If that is their intention then they have an issue not you. If a man is doing this to you then he is trying to make you feel bad about yourself so that he can control you.
A relationship should make you feel good about yourself not make you feel bad. So if he is calling you ugly, stupid, or fat; then he needs to find someone else that meets his needs. Do not feel the need to change yourself based on what a loser thinks about you.